Child Abuse, My Father and a Family in Denial

Posted by careen on February 26, 2009

I start out this child abuse article on a piece of painful abuse. My daughter is 9 years old. She recently told me about some abuse going on for at least 8 months. You see, I am a devoted daughter to my parents. But, out of the course of my life my father has some mental illness. He has never been diagnosed. He refuses to think he has any kind of problem.

He has been sexually abusing my daughter for awhile now. She has been told to not tell anyone and especially her mother. I have been a protective mom. Nonetheless, try to teach my children to be careful of men and women and strangers.

I feel betrayed. I am now an outcast from the rest of the family because I spoke up. And to their disappointment, to the law. They all felt I should have discussed this with them. But, I did the right thing and went to the law.

Now it has been 3 months. And the loss of my family has been devastating. My father denies everything. But, my daughter is sure of everything he has done to her is true. I now face the future of both of my parents hating me. I only protected my daughter. My father has a history of lies, and making up stories that aren’t true. My mother and I had been close forever.

I am 45 years old. The law and counceling says I did the right thing. I know I did the right thing. I am on this earth to protect my child. Please readers, believe your children. Always ask questions if a relative seems to have special interest in your children. I thought he was just playing a game down in the bedroom. No, I guess not. He was playing a game with my daughter’s innocence. It hurts, but she is away from that monster who tried to steal her youth away from her. He needs help. I hope the law will prosecute him to full extent. He has been arrested for sexual abuse, first degree of sexual abuse and first degree on child endangerment. Please let me know if anyone has some input on healing.